Comedian Documents Vows to Herself, Saying It Created Essential Boundaries and Self-Confidence

The Vows That Changed Everything

November 18, 2025: Comedian and actress Tiffany Haddish is opening up about a deeply personal and unconventional commitment she made: she “married herself.” Documented in the “Here Comes the Bride” episode of her new Peacock docuseries, Tiffany Haddish Goes Off, the self-marriage ceremony has become a turning point in her emotional and professional life.

Haddish, 45, revealed in a recent interview that the idea first sparked in 2018 while she was dating a man who asked her, “How are you ever going to get you a husband if you don’t do what I tell you to do?”

She immediately rejected the controlling nature of the comment, recalling her inner response: “I’ll be my husband. I could take care of me better than you could.”

“I started realizing all these things I want from somebody else, I need to be giving to me,” Haddish explained. “And if I’m able to do that, when that person shows up, it’s going to be so easy for us to come together.”

A Symbolic Ceremony in Africa

The ceremony itself, filmed during a girls’ trip to Africa, was highly symbolic. Haddish walked down an aisle with a bouquet, made vows to herself—including a promise to refuse to settle for less—and marked the commitment by kissing a mirror and stepping on a glass in honor of her Jewish heritage.

Haddish insists the act was deeply meaningful and has provided a necessary shift in her boundaries and self-perception:

“I used to not show up for myself, do everything for everybody else and not take care of me,” Haddish shared. “And ever since I got married to me, baby, them boundaries—I see a difference in the way I wake up in the morning, and how I look in the mirror. When I look at myself, I see somebody who is whole, still fragile, but well taken care of.”

Dating with Higher Standards

While Haddish maintains she is still open to finding a future romantic partner, she is now dating with significantly higher standards. She says that a potential man must be able to match her commitment to her own well-being.

“Everything that I’m doing for me—if a man can do that better than me, that’s my man!” she concluded.