The world got news the same time Rachael Kirkconnell did about going public with her split from former Bachelor star Matt James.
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Not long after, Rachael sits down with Famous Podcast host Alex Cooper on ‘Call Her Daddy’ and shares insight into fragile relationship dynamics.
“At the end, he said I had a hard time taking accountability in the relationship. And I was sitting there feeling like I was going crazy because I was like, I do say sorry a lot.” – Rachael Kirkconnell
Toxic Relationships in the Public Eye
The interview on Call Her Daddy has garnered 2.7 Million views in just 6 days. While the world is typically on the edge of their seats to witness a public breakup, there may an unspoken element about the split between Rachael and Matt. With more research on the study of relationships attachment styles, personalities dynamics, and mental health, a more fine-tuned lens can be applied to relationships where demises don’t appear on the surface.
An excerpt from ‘VeryWellMind’ describes a toxic relationship dynamic in way that reflects some of Rachael’s explanation to her time spent with Matt.
“….this is followed by devaluation, where the [partner] belittles and undermines their partner, leading to feelings of worthlessness and self-doubt. The cycle may repeat multiple times, ultimately culminating in the [partner] discarding them when they are no longer deemed useful.”
Alex Cooper Consoles Rachael Kirkconnell
“First of all, you’re not crazy. My friend was just in a similar situation where she was always apologizing for things she feels she didn’t do. That’s not healthy.” – Alex Cooper.


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Alex is not a stranger to emotionally charged convesations where someone needs a non-judgmental, open ear. She went on to reassure Rachael of mindsets she was hearing throughout their conversation.
“I go into the conversation irritated with him, and I leave the conversation hoping he’s not irritated with me, and that I am sorry and I want him to not be mad at me. You start to lose your mind a little bit.” – Rachael Kirkconnell
With public breakups having a platform like Call Her Daddy, we predict a more evenly explained depiction of the innerworkings of these dynamics.